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“I’m not good at spelling.”


We all have things we’re “not good at,” whether it’s spelling or math or playing piano or swimming backstroke. But approaching these things with the belief that we’re “not good” at them can hold us back; we can become stuck. This is what’s meant by a fixed mindset. But approaching a learning challenge with the idea that we can improve with practice creates “space for growth,” in the words of first grade teacher Karima Hastings. This is what’s meant by a growth mindset.


Growth mindset was the topic of a parent education presentation we held via Zoom on August 21. The presenters were Wendy Ritchey, a retired clinical psychologist and former Meher Schools board member and elementary teacher, and Karima (a Meher School alum). Warren Wallace, our director of admissions (also a Meher School alum), was the moderator. (You’ll find a link to a video of the presentation and a list of resources at the end of this article.)


A fixed mindset, Wendy explained, “assumes that intelligence, athletic, artistic, musical, and other abilities, or ‘talents,’ are fixed—you’re born with them or not. Practice is fruitless if you aren’t naturally gifted.” A fixed mindset “causes people to avoid things they might not excel at. They make excuses or get defensive in the face of failure, so they’re less likely to learn from their experience. Rather than learning from others’ success, they feel threatened by it.”


Fixed mindset doesn’t apply only to students who are struggling. A child who is already the best goalie on her soccer team may not be motivated to try to improve. This too is a form of fixed mindset.

Carol Dweck, a developmental psychologist at Stanford, popularized the notion of growth mindset through her 2006 book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. She describes it this way: “In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.”


Dweck’s research showed that people with a growth mindset achieve more than those with a fixed mindset. Wendy noted, “If you believe you can get smarter by continuing to challenge yourself, you’re going to embrace challenges and be persistent in the face of setbacks. You’re not afraid of failure. You’re going to learn through criticism rather than shying away from it. You’re inspired by others’ success, rather than being threatened by it—you look to them as models.”


Karima has been encouraging growth mindset in her students for years. “We listen to our students’ negative self-talk and help them reframe a negative statement in a healthier, more positive way.” One tool she finds particularly effective is adding “yet” to the end of a student’s negative statement—“I’m not good at spelling—yet. This opens the door for practice to improve on a skill.”


Developing a growth mindset, she added, “is a process. It’s not immediate. And it takes practice.”

Parents can help their children cultivate a growth mindset by identifying statements they make that reflect a fixed mindset and exploring ways to rethink their approach to learning in a positive way. Equally important is modeling a growth mindset in their interactions with their children. Taken together, Karima says, these “create space for growth.”


For parents who are interested in learning more about growth mindset, Dwerk’s book Mindset and The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel Seigel and Tina Payne Bryson are a good place to start.


We have a list of children's books to inspire their growth mindsets here.


Here's a link to a video of the growth mindset parent ed session.



Nurtured Heart Workshop For Parents and Caregivers September 12



The Nurtured Heart Approach encourages positive behavior in all children by noticing and emphasizing all the little things, often overlooked, they do well every day. Teachers in our preschool and elementary school have been using this strategy for years.


When adults focus on “fixing” negative behavior, the traditional approach to discipline, we can unwittingly cause destructive patterns to increase. The Nurtured Heart Approach teaches adults to give energy to children’s positive qualities, which in turn amplifies and expands them. The goal is not simply to produce “good” behavior but to build children’s strengths and help them become all they can be.


We’ll be hosting a free online Nurtured Heart workshop the afternoon of September 12. The presenter will be Celeste Elsey, the author of Greatness Kids Initiative: Activities to Bring NHA to Life in Education, Families, and Youth Groups. The title of her workshop is “Nuts & Bolts of the Nurtured Heart Approach for Parents and Caregivers.”


The two-hour event will begin at 4 p.m. By attending, you can align with how teachers work with children in our classrooms. There’s no need to sign up. We’ll publish the Zoom link in next week’s Wednesday Messages.







Preparations are underway for our third annual fall Clothing, Toy & Book Swap. A project of Sustainable Meher Schools, the swap is a way to pass along perfectly good things your child has outgrown to another family in the Meher Schools community. At the same time, it’s a way to refresh your child’s clothing, toys, and books without spending money.


Beginning Monday, September 4, parents are invited to drop off children’s clothing, including shoes, in sizes newborn–kids XL; hangers for children’s clothing; children’s books with no marks or torn pages; and toys, puzzles, and games with all the parts included. Leave them in front of (not behind, please) the bike racks in the admin parking lot, but please don’t drive onto the lot during school hours. Items will be available to pick up September 18–22.


Volunteers needed! The swap is organized by Adrienne Wallace. For the past two years, she’s done all the work herself, but it’s too big a job for one person. She’s asking for volunteers to help sort and prepare donations in the mornings and set up the display tables with her the weekend before the event. Please call the Office if you can help.


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